10 things you shouldn’t expect from other people
I know it might seem a little difficult to learn how to stop expecting too much from others, but it’s actually not that difficult to understand and accept.
Interpersonal relationships are often very complex, and therefore unrealistic expectations about the behavior of other people can lead to disappointment, frustration, anger, or even anger.
To avoid all of that, it is much easier to learn how to stop expecting too much from others.
This can help you rethink your attitudes towards others and lead to happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.
We inflict unnecessary suffering on ourselves when we have inappropriate expectations of others or keep them under constant scrutiny.
Of course, we all deserve basic things in relationships, such as B. Respect, but relying on something else can seriously disappoint you.
Remember that everyone is at a different point on their path, and that will also be reflected in their words and deeds.
You should know that:
1. Don’t expect people to agree with you every time
If you’re one of those people who expect people to agree to everything you say every time you say something, you are in for a lot of disappointment.
Most people have their own thoughts and opinions and it is unrealistic to expect them to always agree with you.
Do what you can to convince them with data, research, and facts, but don’t assume they will or should always agree.
2. Don’t expect others to acknowledge you when you criticize yourself
You can’t expect others to treat you as worthy if you don’t treat yourself like that.
We all make mistakes, we all have problems, and we all regret them. But you are not the fault, you are not your problems.
You are here now and have the strength and determination to shape your life.
Acknowledge yourself and see your own strength – then you can expect others to take it up too.
3. Don’t expect others to respect you if you don’t yourself
So if you want to be respected, you have to do what you have to do to respect yourself – that is, live in a way that you respect yourself.
Would you talk to a friend you respect the way you talk to yourself?
How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.
4. Don’t expect others to tell you what to do when you have no idea what you want
If you want to live an authentic life and follow your own inner compass, you can’t expect someone else to tell you what you want.
The desire and the passion must come from you first. You need to let go of passivity and support your own ideas so that you can figure out what you want and why you want it.
Nobody else can do this work for you.
5. Don’t expect others to stay when they’re ready to go
Some people will come and stay in your life, but many others will come and go – and you have to know how to let go of those who no longer want to be there.
Those who stay, who stand by you in good times and bad, are important to your life.
And there will even be times when you are on your own – not a pretty experience, but one that teaches you resilience and strength. Oftentimes, the happy ending is just letting go.
6. Don’t expect others to know what you are thinking
You cannot expect someone else to understand what you are thinking if you cannot express your thoughts.
It is more important to understand your own thoughts than to ask the opinion of others.
Start by being honest with yourself – about what you think, what you feel, what you want. Then you can start sharing this with others.
7. Don’t expect others to fix things when you can’t find solutions yourself
It’s okay if you don’t know how to fix something. But it’s not okay to blame others for failing to do it.
In blaming others, you are not giving yourself space to develop your own skills.
When you expect others to fix things, you are giving away your power.
8. Don’t expect others to make you a priority if you don’t care about yourself
If you do not value yourself and stand up for yourself, you are not only sabotaging yourself but you are sending the message that you are not worth the effort, not even for yourself.
Treat yourself like you matter and others will do the same.
9. Don’t expect others to forgive you if you don’t forgive yourself
If you are busy waiting for others to forgive you but you have not yet forgiven yourself, just learn to forgive yourself and two wonderful things will happen: others will learn to forgive you and you will learn to forgive others.
10. Joy of life
Others can temporarily increase your happiness factor, but they cannot impose it on you unless you are open to seeing the light shining into your daily life. Joy arises when you see the good things that already exist in your life, both small and large. A man held in an Afghan prison lived in a narrow cell with a gray concrete floor and a metal bed.
Only a small window at the top of the outside wall let in a narrow beam of light in the morning. He waited longingly for this light and every day thanked him for his presence.
On a cold autumn day, when he was shivering on the damp ground, a bright red leaf blew in and landed in front of him.
Carefully he picked it up and hid it, knowing that his kidnappers would take away this little joy too. Every day he took it out to look at it.